Ok, so I am finally updating!! My days fly by so quickly! Chaltu is growing, learning, adapting so well. It is hard to believe that we have only been home for a little over 3 months, but then when I interact with her it seems like we have been home for so long!
Her language, all I can say is WOW!! I mean seriously, she is doing so well, although we did have an incident at school where 2 girls were talking down to her and taking advantage of not only her limited english but her sweetness...the teacher handled it very well (so glad she is in that school) but she was pretty upset, they were talking to her like she was a baby and getting her to repeat things. I just want to scream every time some one speaks to her like she is a toddler! So does she!!
School is fantastic, her spelling skills and understanding of the words is awesome, she excels in math and seems to be doing great in everything else!
Home...well she is very comfortable here, we did notice this week though that she is becoming a bit "bratty" if you will...so I am going to need to do a bit more structure and time for some more responsibility at home!!
We are finally getting her to play in her room with her toys, she does not do this to much but when she does you can tell she loves it!
She has grown- she is almost 50' tall and has gained 3 lbs, I think she had gained more, but I am so excited for this! It is good to see her filled out.
While food is no longer a battle it is only because I don't make it one! She has added pancakes and waffles to her breakfast choices and now is in love with red potatoes, that is about it though! Oh well! She eats super healthy so I quit worrying about it.
She does know when to ask for things, she asks if she can watch tv, if she can have gum/candy...she is a very sweet and loving girl. She loves Jesus and even started tearing up when we were talking about Holy week and his last few days. Her heart is wonderful!
She still dances around the house 24/7 and sings!!
She is dying for us to adopt another (or a few) more kids!! She wants us to have a big family!
I cannot think of what else although I am sure there a billion things I have left out!
She is just a ray of light that I could not have ever imagined. We are truly blessed that God gave her to us.
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Horrible blogger!
Well I am still trying to figure out how to work and get other things done! So I am one of those horrible bloggers! But to make up for it I give you photo's of just the cutest thing in the world! Yes this weekend i will give an update on how things are going, where we have fallen and risen! Life is very good though! Just look at this smile, how could it not be amazing!
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
She had a dream
The other night Chaltu had a dream about her first mom, myself and Duane. We were all together, how beautiful is that! She was telling me about it last night, which prompted us to play a new "game" what do you miss about....A few weeks ago when she was grieving and I was struggling to get her to open up a fellow adoptive mom suggested that I relate to her in things I am sad about. So now we have a great game which allow her to openly speak about what she loves, misses...and feel safe as I am doing the same thing. Last night she really opened up and started telling me stories about playing with her brothers and sisters. She misses them very much. We went back and forth for about 30 minutes, I learned so much from her. Overall the whole thing broke my heart, why did she have to leave her first family. I am pretty sure she does not know why and there is not yet the opportunity for us to talk about it (I am creating a safe zone for her and will not push it). I think there is a lot of confusion there which is completely understandable, it makes me very sad for her. I know that she is happy here, she is bonding well with us still, she is a survivor though and realizes this is her forever home and I think a part of that makes her sad (which is a GREAT thing- she has emotions). I will never let her forget her first family and all that she did with her siblings- we laughed so hard last night at some of the funny stuff we have both done that we cried.
What I did realize last night though is that we need to make sure we are doing things that create new memories for her. I know that we are on a small scale, but I really need to accelerate her play dates, making friends and doing things with other children. This is a huge miss for us, while we have started doing this, not at the level we should. So operation play date will be taking full force!!
Now for a few funny things she has been saying/doing lately..
1. touches my belly, oh mommy belly too full
2. Mommy peasant (this was taught to her by Duane!) she is the queen
3. in watching the Brady Bunch- she thought in the song where it talks about the golden hair of the girls- that is said 3 terrible girls!
A few other things, she is a candy freak!! LOVES it! at the store yesterday she wanted candy so I am now having her buy it, it was pretty funny to watch her maneuver through value and desire!
She is still dancing every second of the day that she can!
She wants to take some sort of an instrument lesson!- I am thinking drums- although I know piano is the best option, but she loves to pretend to beat on drums
Food is still a sore subject around here, it is her connection to her home, ALTHOUGH, at the store yesterday when we saw Naan bread she hugged and kissed it, when 3 weeks ago she was choking it down!
She is not thrilled with swim lessons, loves the water but not to sure of the lessons, we will see after today it is the 2nd one so maybe it will be better.
Math is definitely her favorite subject and the Bible is her favorite book.
She is a perfect 7ish year old!!!
What I did realize last night though is that we need to make sure we are doing things that create new memories for her. I know that we are on a small scale, but I really need to accelerate her play dates, making friends and doing things with other children. This is a huge miss for us, while we have started doing this, not at the level we should. So operation play date will be taking full force!!
Now for a few funny things she has been saying/doing lately..
1. touches my belly, oh mommy belly too full
2. Mommy peasant (this was taught to her by Duane!) she is the queen
3. in watching the Brady Bunch- she thought in the song where it talks about the golden hair of the girls- that is said 3 terrible girls!
A few other things, she is a candy freak!! LOVES it! at the store yesterday she wanted candy so I am now having her buy it, it was pretty funny to watch her maneuver through value and desire!
She is still dancing every second of the day that she can!
She wants to take some sort of an instrument lesson!- I am thinking drums- although I know piano is the best option, but she loves to pretend to beat on drums
Food is still a sore subject around here, it is her connection to her home, ALTHOUGH, at the store yesterday when we saw Naan bread she hugged and kissed it, when 3 weeks ago she was choking it down!
She is not thrilled with swim lessons, loves the water but not to sure of the lessons, we will see after today it is the 2nd one so maybe it will be better.
Math is definitely her favorite subject and the Bible is her favorite book.
She is a perfect 7ish year old!!!
Saturday, March 3, 2012
very random!
So what are we up to? Chaltu had another explosion of English last week, when our Amharic speaking friend watched her last week, Chaltu always replied in English! Last night she read the book 5 little monkeys to me! It is a bit overwhelming how smart she is and how quickly she is catching on, I have to keep up and keep pushing her! She got another 100 on her spelling test and 3 of the 5 bonus words correct- including- Stations of the cross- try explaining the "tion" sound to a limited speaking English kid! she got it!
We got her a bike last weekend and she LOVES it! we were able to go twice this week and she is really enjoying it- as am I, it allows me to run!!
Dinner is my favorite time of day with Chaltu, it takes about an hour for her to eat...so I now take advantage of this, we practice spelling words, we talk, it is typically a very fun part of our day, this week though we wrote funny sentences about each other! This was great, it allowed her to practice writing, to be silly and creative! We had such a blast and this girl is very funny! I think we are going to find a theater camp to put her in this summer!
Dancing, have I told you all her love of dancing? Seriously this girl is always dancing, we were at a TGI Fridays restaurant a few weeks ago and she and I went to wash her hands, a song came on with a good beat, and we had to stop what we were doing and bust into a dance party in the bathroom! Every night she and I dance together, if I ask her to go get something/ do something she dances her way there! Yes we are thinking of putting her in dance, but I am so conservative on somethings, that I really don't want her shaking her booty and wearing short shorts to dance in...we will see...I am still researching! I have relaxed a bit with the music I let her listen to so we can dance...the messages out there can be so...well you know!
Her eye...some of you know she is blind in one eye, it was due to an accident when she lived in her first home. We went to the Dr. 2 weeks ago, we were very hopeful that maybe there would be some vision there...nope, none, nothing, nada, we have to get a ultrasound to ensure that there is nothing "growing" there (they are 99% sure there is not). So it is what it is...it definitely does NOT stop her from anything!! we go today to get her new glasses finally! We are all excited about this!
Her newest chant (doing it right now) "Chaltu queen, Daddy king, Mommy princess" although last night Daddy taught her the word peasant! so then mommy was a mere peasant!!! She and I have gone over the order of queen and princess a lot!!! It is pretty funny!! She gets it and wants to reign!!
Well it is the first day in a few weeks we all have together and they are both up! I think we are headed out to breakfast, get glasses and then who knows what!! But I know it will be great!
We got her a bike last weekend and she LOVES it! we were able to go twice this week and she is really enjoying it- as am I, it allows me to run!!
Dinner is my favorite time of day with Chaltu, it takes about an hour for her to eat...so I now take advantage of this, we practice spelling words, we talk, it is typically a very fun part of our day, this week though we wrote funny sentences about each other! This was great, it allowed her to practice writing, to be silly and creative! We had such a blast and this girl is very funny! I think we are going to find a theater camp to put her in this summer!
Dancing, have I told you all her love of dancing? Seriously this girl is always dancing, we were at a TGI Fridays restaurant a few weeks ago and she and I went to wash her hands, a song came on with a good beat, and we had to stop what we were doing and bust into a dance party in the bathroom! Every night she and I dance together, if I ask her to go get something/ do something she dances her way there! Yes we are thinking of putting her in dance, but I am so conservative on somethings, that I really don't want her shaking her booty and wearing short shorts to dance in...we will see...I am still researching! I have relaxed a bit with the music I let her listen to so we can dance...the messages out there can be so...well you know!
Her eye...some of you know she is blind in one eye, it was due to an accident when she lived in her first home. We went to the Dr. 2 weeks ago, we were very hopeful that maybe there would be some vision there...nope, none, nothing, nada, we have to get a ultrasound to ensure that there is nothing "growing" there (they are 99% sure there is not). So it is what it is...it definitely does NOT stop her from anything!! we go today to get her new glasses finally! We are all excited about this!
Her newest chant (doing it right now) "Chaltu queen, Daddy king, Mommy princess" although last night Daddy taught her the word peasant! so then mommy was a mere peasant!!! She and I have gone over the order of queen and princess a lot!!! It is pretty funny!! She gets it and wants to reign!!
Well it is the first day in a few weeks we all have together and they are both up! I think we are headed out to breakfast, get glasses and then who knows what!! But I know it will be great!
Saturday, February 25, 2012
adopting again?
I have always wanted a big family, picturing the family dinners, playing together in the park...all the dreamy stuff, no worries I am well aware of reality, different personalities, what all I would have to make to have that family dinner (every night), the fighting, crying...
Duane and I have probably had one of the easiest adoption processes out there, while it felt at times like hell, it was very easy compared to others. We were very blessed. We have been home with Chaltu just over 2 months, her transition has been pretty easy and our transition of becoming parents is coming along!! The balance of work and motherhood is still a challenge for me, but I am learning.
So Duane and have been talking about doing it again, while I understand we have only been home 2 months, we all know how long the paperwork process takes and we would prefer if we are going to do this again to get started sooner rather than later. But we keep flipping back and forth, do we do it again?
If we do, where? ET again, another country? domestic waiting child, what age, siblings? All the same questions come creeping back up! Then there is the financial aspect to it all, we now have a child who is in private school, so we have to think about that as well.
I really do want that big family, I want Chaltu to have siblings that live with her and that are not just a distant memory, I want to adopt again, but I want it to be right! I would love to hear from those of you that have adopted again, your thoughts, did you go older, younger, same country. What Country's out there are in need of parents? I will say we are not looking to adopt an infant, this we know (unless it was a sibling match). Any thoughts, info...please either comment or send me an email!!
Duane and I have probably had one of the easiest adoption processes out there, while it felt at times like hell, it was very easy compared to others. We were very blessed. We have been home with Chaltu just over 2 months, her transition has been pretty easy and our transition of becoming parents is coming along!! The balance of work and motherhood is still a challenge for me, but I am learning.
So Duane and have been talking about doing it again, while I understand we have only been home 2 months, we all know how long the paperwork process takes and we would prefer if we are going to do this again to get started sooner rather than later. But we keep flipping back and forth, do we do it again?
If we do, where? ET again, another country? domestic waiting child, what age, siblings? All the same questions come creeping back up! Then there is the financial aspect to it all, we now have a child who is in private school, so we have to think about that as well.
I really do want that big family, I want Chaltu to have siblings that live with her and that are not just a distant memory, I want to adopt again, but I want it to be right! I would love to hear from those of you that have adopted again, your thoughts, did you go older, younger, same country. What Country's out there are in need of parents? I will say we are not looking to adopt an infant, this we know (unless it was a sibling match). Any thoughts, info...please either comment or send me an email!!
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Her Past
Chaltu is sharing a lot about her life in Ethiopia, seemed to be our dinner conversation almost every night this week. It is wonderful to hear her recount these memories. Duane and I are in flux of how far to take our questions for her. Currently I am very reserved when it comes to probing, really just letting her talk. However we are really wanting to show her pictures of her family (from our trip) to ensure we know who everyone is and record their names properly so we never have to worry about her forgetting them. But what do we show her, all the photos? the photos with us there? She is very happy in speaking about her family and seems very happy here with her new family, we just don't want to upset that balance. She finally seems comfortable talking about her first mom and knows that we want her to, I think she was a bit scared to do that at first, but when she does I am quick to acknowledge and encourage her to talk about her/them. I would love any advice here, what has worked...not worked...just your thoughts!
On a second note she is doing so well! School is really coming along, although I feel her teacher thinks we should be doing more for her with ESL/ELL, but we just have not been able to find anyone outside of school to do this. I think her english is coming along brilliantly so I am not too worried about it! I mean really she has been acing her spelling test and can tell you not only how to spell the words but what they mean! So...going to keep on keeping on!
well off to get ready for basketball (unless the snow makes them cancel)
On a second note she is doing so well! School is really coming along, although I feel her teacher thinks we should be doing more for her with ESL/ELL, but we just have not been able to find anyone outside of school to do this. I think her english is coming along brilliantly so I am not too worried about it! I mean really she has been acing her spelling test and can tell you not only how to spell the words but what they mean! So...going to keep on keeping on!
well off to get ready for basketball (unless the snow makes them cancel)
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Update
The other night I shared with Chaltu why I loved her, what a neat experience. She laughed and giggled the whole time and was quite embarrassed. But what was really neat is last night I asked her why I loved her and she repeated a few of the things back and giggled again. I am so glad she knows all the reasons I love her!
however just so you all know that our life is not picture perfect, she did get in "trouble" for the first time last week!!! No dessert, it was nothing major but she had been slightly pushing my buttons all night and then she hit the jackpot!! She was a bit bummed but really moved on fairly quickly. Not a lot effects her, which is a bit sad as I worry that she has been through so much that she has such a super tough shell now she does allow her emotions to take over sometimes. Maybe in this world that is a good thing...who knows! I don't want to analyze it to much that is for sure!!
Her school is going really well, her teacher called her "extremely gifted" and said when the english takes off she is going to be a force to be reckoned with! We see it and it is pretty cool! Speaking of her language, it is getting better and better we are still looking for an ESL tutor with no luck.
She will be starting basketball next week which is really exciting and I think I am going to put her in swim lessons as well. Her socialization is coming around, last week she started saying goodbye to her friends at school versus them just saying it to her and she staring at them!! We also have our first birthday party next week! At Chuck E Cheese!! wish us luck!! It is cute though as she is so excited to buy a present for the little girl!! She said "mommy, sook (store) most beautiful baby" I said absolutely!!
Our routine is settling in, although she hates when we work and is so excited at the rare moments we are all together, last night was one of those and she was so excited and just kept hugging us both and having all 3 of us hug!
I promise to take some pictures this week! As everyone is asking!!
however just so you all know that our life is not picture perfect, she did get in "trouble" for the first time last week!!! No dessert, it was nothing major but she had been slightly pushing my buttons all night and then she hit the jackpot!! She was a bit bummed but really moved on fairly quickly. Not a lot effects her, which is a bit sad as I worry that she has been through so much that she has such a super tough shell now she does allow her emotions to take over sometimes. Maybe in this world that is a good thing...who knows! I don't want to analyze it to much that is for sure!!
Her school is going really well, her teacher called her "extremely gifted" and said when the english takes off she is going to be a force to be reckoned with! We see it and it is pretty cool! Speaking of her language, it is getting better and better we are still looking for an ESL tutor with no luck.
She will be starting basketball next week which is really exciting and I think I am going to put her in swim lessons as well. Her socialization is coming around, last week she started saying goodbye to her friends at school versus them just saying it to her and she staring at them!! We also have our first birthday party next week! At Chuck E Cheese!! wish us luck!! It is cute though as she is so excited to buy a present for the little girl!! She said "mommy, sook (store) most beautiful baby" I said absolutely!!
Our routine is settling in, although she hates when we work and is so excited at the rare moments we are all together, last night was one of those and she was so excited and just kept hugging us both and having all 3 of us hug!
I promise to take some pictures this week! As everyone is asking!!
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